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May 9, 2003
The life blood of Louis Brier
KATHARINE HAMER SPECIAL TO THE JEWISH BULLETIN
You want me to tell you a joke?" is the first thing Miriam
Matoff asked me when I walked into the gift shop she has been running
out of the Louis Brier foyer for the past 20 years.
"Sure," I said, and Matoff launched into a gag about the
newlywed who calls her mother after the honeymoon, crying about
her husband using four-letter words all the time.
"What four-letter words?" the mother asks. "Bake.
Cook. Shop."
Matoff chuckles to herself as she relays the punchline. At 96, she's
probably older than many of the home's residents, but she's lost
none of her energy.
To Matoff, the gift shop is like the centre of the Louis Brier:
a place where residents can come to browse or simply to chew the
fat.
"It isn't only buying and selling," she said. "I
want them to feel that they know somebody here that's not strange.
I like to cheer them up. They come in to complain about something,
maybe the chicken they had for dinner. I have one in here every
day at 12 o'clock sharp, she comes in to complain."
Matoff has candles, candies and cards on display. Bouquets of fabric
flowers and even a battery-operated Mexican bear that plays mariachi
tunes. All of the proceeds from the gift shop, which sells its goods
at wholesale prices, go towards medical equipment.
"Nobody's got what I've got," she asserted, "And
I don't have to charge an arm and a leg, because I don't pay rent.
You tell them, I've got English bone china that sells for $6 apiece,
and I've got it for $3."
Matoff is one of 200 volunteers whose dedication is the lifeblood
of the Louis Brier.
"They're incredible people I can't say that enough,"
said Patricia Nitkin, manager of therapeutic, recreation, culture
and volunteer services. Up to now, Nitkin has been in charge of
the home's volunteers but the volunteer program has become
so successful that a new full-time volunteer co-ordinator, Martha
Guss, has just taken over the job.
Nitkin says many of the volunteers have or used to have
a family member living at the Louis Brier. For others, "They
want to be part of the Jewish community in the way that they're
giving something and our culture is such that the elderly are to
be respected and to be treated with care so I think they
come knowing it's a great mitzvah to do so," said Nitkin.
Free escort service
Murray Belkin is 88, something he conceded reluctantly, claiming
that if he tells me his age he might lose his escort licence. For
the past three years, Belkin has been accompanying residents to
doctor's appointments. He also helps out with Oneg Shabbat on Fridays.
He's one of a handful of volunteers whose phone number the Louis
Brier staff knows by heart. He's always prepared to give up his
time and many of the residents, according to Nitkin, will actually
change their appointment times so Belkin can go with them in a taxi
or the home's HandyDart bus.
He's modest about his volunteer work and how much it means to the
residents. "I just say I'm lucky that I can do it. I'm fortunate.
I'm still healthy and capable of helping somebody else. That's what
we're here for. We're all supposed to help each other."
He told me that a week earlier, he brought a resident back and was
offered a cheque.
"I says to them, 'Is it a million dollars?' " Belkin recalled.
"They says, 'I don't have it,' and I says, 'I don't accept
less than that.' "
What size underwear?
Like Belkin, Marian Dewitt is one of the residents' favorites. Originally
from Danzig, Germany, Dewitt has been living in Vancouver since
1952. She first began coming to the Louis Brier while her husband
was a resident. After he passed away a year and a half ago, she
kept up her volunteering because, "I felt that this was a part
of my daily routine and family."
Dewitt also accompanies residents to medical appointments, as well
as on day trips to the beach, the Vancouver Jewish Film Festival,
and Oakridge Mall. Sometimes on shopping expeditions, she gives
fashion advice.
"The immediate decisions are 'What color?' or 'What size of
underwear?' " she said. "It's a full-time job. It takes
two hours. If we go shopping it's a one-on-one. Shopping, you can't
take more than one. I tried it once." Afterwards residents
will insist on buying her coffee. As a former social worker, Dewitt
enjoys the interpersonal contact she has with residents. "I've
always done things that are people-connected," she said.
Caron Bernstein started volunteering at the home several years ago.
"I went with residents on bus trips to parks, movies and concerts,"
she said in a letter to the Bulletin. "I met many of
the residents and I always came home just a little bit happier and
feeling so glad that I was a Louis Brier volunteer. After several
trips, I became one of the gang. I looked forward to the next day
trip. I have had the privilege of getting to know many of the residents
and have made friends with many of them."
Bernstein urges others to "take a risk" and follow in
her footsteps.
"The time you spend there will be very special to you,"
she added.
Nitkin points out that since the inception of the Louis Brier, there
has always been a volunteer component, "but it has grown enormously
over the last number of years." Volunteers of all ages help
out not just on medical appointments and excursions but with parties,
fund-raising, running Shabbat and holiday services, even delivering
mail. One volunteer, Ken Schneider, whose mother was once a Louis
Brier resident, takes care of all the little things: emptying garbage
cans, restocking water glasses, and setting up the twice-weekly
evening bingo games. There are also a number of teen programs, including
Mini-Makeovers and the Canucks Club, where the generations meet
to cheer on the home team. Some students come on school visits and
then keep coming on their own.
"They don't have a grandparent living in this city so for them
it's like a bubbie or a zayde," said Nitkin.
Alexi Millman is one such teen. The 15-year-old, a Grade 10 student
at Point Grey mini, has been coming to the Louis Brier since her
grandfather lived here years ago.
"I used to come almost every day after school to visit him,"
she said. "So I sort of know a lot of the people here."
Once a week she comes to play cards or talk to the residents in
the activity room.
"I think it's really interesting to talk to them," said
Millman. "They all have really good stories to tell, and I
think it's a really good learning experience for me. I have to be
careful because they don't have all the skills they used to have,
even talking ability. You want to talk to them like they're younger,
and you have to be careful not to belittle them." She says
she doesn't come in enough to have a close relationship with any
of the residents, but "they recognize me when I come in and
that's one of the big things for me, just that they're happy to
see me."
"I think people feel that when they come here, they sort of
become a part of the family," said Nitkin. "In terms of
a long-term care facility, this is outstanding. The kind of devotion,
the kind of family feeling, just the commitment, is very unusual
here. It's not a glory kind of thing, but they really make people's
lives here better."
Katharine Hamer is a freelance writer living in Vancouver.
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