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May 3, 2002
Viewing film is a first step
Letters
Editor: The Vancouver Jewish Film Festival, along with the DOXA
Documentary Film and Video Festival and the Out on Screen Queer
Film and Video Festival, is co-presenting the documentary Trembling
Before G-d. The film documents the experiences of a number of
Orthodox (or previously Orthodox) Jews whose sexual orientation
is homosexual. The subjects in the film respond to the conflict
between their religious commitments and sexual orientation in a
number of ways: Some leave Orthodox Judaism; others form committed
monogamous relationships with same gender partners (worrying about
the ramifications of such a decision in the world to come); and
still others strive for celibacy. The struggles of these individuals
are sad, moving and inspiring.
The film's most important contribution, to my mind, is its sympathetic
portrayal of two groups of people: homosexuals who struggle with
the conflict between Torah law and their urges; and the Orthodox
rabbis who are committed to interacting compassionately with them.
It is vital that the existence of these two groups come to light.
The Orthodox community must become aware that within its midst there
are individuals of homosexual orientation who are overwhelmingly
committed to Torah and mitzvot. Some of them fight valiant battles
against their urges to fulfil Torah to the best of their ability.
Others do not fight this battle, yet are still deeply committed
to fulfilling mitzvot and learning Torah. They are not deserving
of demonization. They are deserving of compassion, kindness and
understanding. This film itself tacitly makes that point and a number
of the rabbis who are interviewed in the film make it explicitly.
Let me be absolutely clear. I am not suggesting that the Torah permits
homosexual intercourse. However, while forbidding the act, the Torah
leaves room for tolerance of the individual. While the matter is
complicated and I cannot go into detail in this space, I believe
this position is well grounded halachically. It is part of a long-standing
Jewish tradition of condemning forbidden acts but not of condemning
people. Again, I am simply advocating tolerance towards those who
are attracted to members of the same sex.
I believe such tolerance is essential because isolation and demonization
are untenable. The film demonstrates that those of homosexual orientation
who are ostracized from the community are likely to do one of two
things: They leave the Orthodox community altogether or they hide
their homosexual tendencies from everyone and attempt to live as
if they were heterosexual. The former option has negative consequences
in that an individual who, I believe, could have been a constructive,
positive force in the community would no longer be among us.
The latter option can cause all kinds of psychological damage. First
(as we see in the movie), such a person may wed as part of a pretence
of a heterosexual life. Eventually, the homosexual partner may be
unable to keep up the charade, bringing pain to him or herself,
a spouse and children. Second, the damage to the gay person is immeasurable.
Living a secret life, unable to share one's struggles and pain is
a burden I cannot imagine bearing. Indeed, this may be an issue
of pikuach nefesh (saving a life). The depression of living
such a life, rejected by family and community can lead to suicide.
To prevent these adverse circumstances, homosexuals must know that
they can share who they are with family, friends and rabbis without
ostracism.
The next step of how to council homosexuals who wish to remain part
of the Orthodox community is complicated and must be addressed on
a case-by-case basis. I have thought about this matter and discussed
it with my teachers. Admittedly I do not have all the answers or
even many of them. Nonetheless, I believe the Orthodox community
must find a way to stand behind its halachic definitions of permitted
sexual behavior while maintaining a sense of compassion and tolerance
for our fellow Jews of all sexual orientations. A first step toward
that end could be the viewing of this important film.
Rabbi Ross Singer
Vancouver
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