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June 1, 2007
Advocacy through dialogue
How to get the best care for a sick child using your own research.
BRAD FISHER
If the time comes when your child is faced with severe medical
challenges, you might find that you have been cast out to sea in
a boat with no oars, sails, or motor.
All of a sudden, your life will change 180 degrees. Daily routines
will have to change to support the needs of the sick member of your
family and the other family members. All the small problems in daily
life will now become trivial. You will find little help where you
most expect it and some help where you least expect it. Angels in
many disguises will appear in your life to help you get through
this transitional period.
The first thing you are going to think to yourself is, "Thank
G-d I live in Canada and we have a socialized medical system; I
will be taken care of." In reality, after the devastating news
of the first diagnosis, you are going to find yourself bogged down
in a medical system that is under-funded, under-staffed and regionally
centred in large urban areas. You will find yourself sitting at
a computer researching the best options for your child while waiting
for answers from your GP who is too busy/tired/unavailable/inexperienced
in your child's disease and whose time is spread so thin that you
might feel forgotten even though the situation is life-threatening.
You are now on the journey known as advocacy. It is said that parents
are the best advocates for their children's health, as they know
their children the best. Shouldn't our doctors know our children's
state of health better than us? Why are we expected to discover
our children's medical problems before being diagnosed by our doctors?
Why do we have to get a referral to see a pediatrician shouldn't
they be our children's front-line doctors in the first place? Why
has the diagnosis taken so long, using so many doctors?
Here are a few tools to help you on your path:
Do your research
Documentation and communication has never been easier and more available
than with the Internet. It's true that there is a lot of questionable
information online but there is also extremely timely, cutting-edge
and relevant medical information available to the masses. Some of
this information has to be paid for, such as medical publications
of cited studies, but we no longer have to use our doctors as the
only source of medical information. We now have the ability to become
highly knowledgeable and effective in the treatment and care of
our children.
Doctor's information
Take the time to ask your doctor for all documentation regarding
your child's illness. Question what you are told and ask for evidence.
This is not the time to follow blindly. "Buyer beware"
also applies to medical services being supplied to us even though
the system is socialized. You deserve the best care for your child.
Ask your doctor what choices in care are available to you.
Find support groups
The Internet is the fastest way to reach out to others who have
been through what you are going through. Reach out by joining online
chat groups. There is power in numbers. Find mentors through parents
of children with your child's illness. Often these parents will
have done much of the homework before you and can cut your learning
curve in half. You can also reach out to doctors all over the world
who are experts in the field of your child's illness and ask them
for information to give to your doctor.
Put choices in writing
If you have to convince someone in the medical system that your
option of care is more feasible and in line with your philosophy,
then put it in writing, along with the evidence backing up your
argument. There is nothing more powerful than the written word.
Before putting anything in writing, make sure you are respectful,
knowledgeable, organized and formal. The whole point is to convince
your doctors that there is a better way to do things and that you
want to work as a team in the best interest of your child.
What does your doctor believe?
You and your doctor have to be on the same page. Ask your doctor
what their belief systems are in this case. Ask them what they would
do for their child if they had what your child has. What would they
like to see as the outcome of their medical intervention? You have
to work as a team with your doctors when you have a catastrophically
sick child, and if you don't have the same vision for your child's
treatment and its outcome, then you have to look elsewhere.
Media and government
Sometimes the system fails. It will seem as if you are sitting in
a small room with only three people in it, screaming at the top
of your lungs, yet no one hears you. When all else fails and you
have used every politically correct diplomatic form of communication
at your disposal, you might have to ramp up the pressure to get
what you need. You should contact your local MLA and I would strongly
suggest using the media, which is a champion of human rights causes.
Though our medical system often seems adversarial, when you are
depending on it in your greatest time of need, you must strive to
find common ground and work as a team to deliver the best care possible
for your child.
Brad Fisher is the full-time care-giver to his 23-month-old
terminally ill daughter, Shira, who suffers from spinal muscular
atrophy Type 1. Brad lives in Victoria with Shira, his wife, Maxine,
and their four-year-old son, Samuel. Brad can be reached at [email protected].
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