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June 1, 2007
Homework without the pain
ADAM GELMON
It's eight o'clock Monday morning and you seem to have everything
under control. The kids are fed, lunches are made, after-school
uniforms for soccer and dance are packed, the dog's bowl is full
and, any moment now, your kids are going to meet you at the door
as soon as they're done fine-tuning their hair.
This is truly an amazing feat. You should be proud. You feel a smile
of satisfaction and accomplishment grow across your face as you
reflect on your amazing power to mobilize and prepare the troops
for the day.
"Mom/Dad." One of your kids is looking up at you, quite
red in the face, looking completely terrified and wondering how
on earth you could be smiling when something is so obviously wrong.
"I need a note so my teacher doesn't kill me for forgetting
my homework." You look at the dog for some guidance, wondering
how you didn't see this coming, but all she can do is shake her
head.
Maybe you can take solace in knowing a version of this scene is
played out on a daily basis thousands of times around the globe.
Between your children's social life, TV, video games, the latest
gossip, intramurals and extracurriculars, it's really a wonder that
homework gets done as often as it does.
Sorry, kids, homework isn't going away anytime soon, but there are
a few very simple things that parents and children can do to make
life a lot easier, and to make those dreaded homework notes from
the teacher a relic of the past.
Student agendas have come a long way in recent years. Today's agendas
are very kid-friendly. They're full of inspirational quotations,
bright colors and helpful tips for school. Unfortunately, they don't
come with your child's homework already completed.
Until scientists figure out a way to accomplish this, we have to
work with the system we've got. Can you imagine trying to remember
all of your daily tasks if you didn't keep a record? Of course not,
and neither can your kids. As simple as it sounds, if your children
aren't writing in their agendas every day, chances are their homework
isn't getting done on a regular basis, or they are relying on their
friends or you to remind them.
"But I don't have any homework!" There are, of course,
days when teachers don't assign homework. That's exactly what should
be written in the agenda: "No homework today." After all,
we're training our kids to be responsible and to develop good habits.
Taking that few extra seconds to write in their agenda at the end
of each class will go a long way in alleviating hours of stress
and argument. Take this a step further by sitting down with your
children on Sunday night and having them write in all of the extracurricular
activities they have during the upcoming week.
Agendas are excellent tools for the day-to-day homework, but all
too often, it's the big projects and tests that get forgotten. Thankfully,
the odds are that someone in your child's social network will mention,
"the gigantic project that's due tomorrow," sending the
family into an 11th-hour panic mode. As much as you enjoy the extra
bonding time with your children, gluing Styrofoam spheres at one
in the morning, I'm sure you'd rather eliminate this form of "family
time" altogether. A quick and easy solution is to get a large
monthly wall calendar. Not the one on your fridge that includes
every family function for the month, but one that your child can
call their own. Each day, after school, your child's first job should
be to make a beeline straight for this calendar and write in the
due dates for any tests, projects and assignments that are not required
to be handed in the very next day. This is something you need to
do together until it becomes second nature.
Stick with the daily routine of keeping your kids on track, and
don't take off the training wheels until your children are reminding
you about checking the agenda and calendar. Reward your kids when
they're using their calendars, and keep them accountable by setting
some reasonable consequences in advance, if they should fall into
old habits. Everyone might find it helpful to put up a sign that
you can all see when you come in the door. A friendly "Homework
Check" should do the trick.
Homework doesn't actually have to be a chore. Done right, it can
be a time-saver. More often than not, students tend to treat homework
assignments as singular events, rather than a gradual reinforcement
of skills that often lead up to a culminating evaluation, often
in the form of a test. When students begin to understand that homework
is useful to them, it often becomes less of a chore. A funny thing
happens when students take the time to do their homework thoughtfully:
tests, classes and school in general become easier and more rewarding.
No less important is the satisfaction that comes from a job well
done.
As for the times when your children don't do their homework, the
onus also needs to be on the home-to-school communication. Keep
the lines of communication open with your child's teacher throughout
the year. Don't wait for poor marks to send you into reaction mode,
causing you to throw the Playstation out the window and sending
your child into solitary confinement.
When kids aren't achieving or working to their potential, they need
to feel accountable, but so do we. Teachers and parents are partners
in educating students, so send a note, or e-mail, to school in addition
to working with your kids at home on a daily basis. This doesn't
necessarily mean doing every assignment with them, but it does mean
that you should see the homework before it comes back to school.
Think of yourselves as quality-control managers. If it's not up
to snuff, send it back. Doing work right the first time is so much
easier than redoing it three times. Your child will get the message.
Some simple tools with a daily dose of accountability can go a long
way to reducing homework stress. Don't wait until the next school
year. Start today your dog will thank you for it.
Adam Gelmon is a teacher at Vancouver Talmud Torah school.
He is currently working on his master's degree in education.
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